Today we celebrate our 17th wedding anniversary. In honor of this day I am sharing our story, which I have shared in the past. It’s a good story and, if you are struggling in your own marriage, I pray it will provide encouragement. God can take broken hearts and a torn marriage and make it new again. He can provide the same redemption for your life and your family. We are an example of what happens when God heals those who are broken.
Our marriage testimony…
Once I was asked the question “How has being a christian effected your marriage”? Below is my response…
I have been a follower of Christ as long as I can remember. I was raised in christian home, and I am so grateful to my parents for this heritage. My husband had been raised in a similar way, similar heritage. However, I realized early in our marriage that he did not truly have a personal relationship/walk with the Lord. We fell out of the routine of going to church and seeking the Lord. After many years (about we found ourselves with a marriage in ruin. We were a prime example of what happens when you take God out of the marriage.
There were lies, betrayal, and an appearance of no love left. I wanted us to seek counseling, get back into church, etc. My husband wanted out. He was literally running from our marriage and God. He tells me now, that it all changed one day, when he knew that God spoke to him and he realized that he had to change. My husband came to me, and said he wanted to make things work. He would go to counseling (a christian counselor) and that he wanted our marriage to last. I know that the only reason we are together now is because my husband finally turned his life over to the Lord. He also asked me to forgive him of wrong doing.
Now, this is where the non-christian marriage would have ended (and some christian marriages). I, however, could not do that. The Holy Spirit kept reminding me, “Jesus has forgiven you. He commands us to forgive others.” I knew if Jesus could die for me, and forgive me of all my unworthiness, then I had to do the same for my husband. I am not saying it was an easy thing to do. However, God heals broken hearts, and can mend any marriage. You have to be willing to work hard, endure many tears and then there is a blessing beyond any you can imagine.
Our blessing was a restored marriage and our Gracie. After 13 years of marriage, we had our Grace. We named her Grace because it was only fitting. God had showed such Grace to us through the healing of our relationship with Him as well as with each other. We are now active members of a church, are surrounded by wonderful christian friends, and we seek the Lord to lead our lives. So, how has being a christian effected my marriage, well, I wouldn’t be married today. I would not have had the hope, known the healing, and experienced the forgiveness to allow my marriage to be made whole.